Your Cloud Nine Team

Have you ever heard that there’s power in numbers? Two are better than one? Teamwork makes the dream work? Well, when it comes to your birth support we happen to agree! We are so incredibly honored and excited to be partnering up with Kelsey Haliti, a childbirth educator, doula and mother who has been actively involved in the birth work community for over 4 years. We have been working diligently to prepare for this partnership, and are over the moon ecstatic to tell you all about it!

Kelsey and Tina met when we sat hip-to-hip at our ProDoula labor support training. The connection was instant and over the long weekend of intense learning and practical training a bond began to form. A few months later, the idea seed of a partnership was planted. It grew, slowly but surely, into a mutual excitement and love for the idea of working alongside each other.

As partners in a team approach, we are looking forward to supporting even more women and families in a wider geographic area. With different backgrounds and trainings under our belts, we are now able to offer a greater variety of support to expecting parents. As a Bradley Method® instructor of multiple years, Kelsey has a deep knowledge and passion for birth and its physiological processes. As a childbirth educator, birth and postpartum doula with a love for all things natural, she brings a whole new facet of options to growing families. With Tina’s experience in consulting, Evidence Based Birth®, as well as birth and postpartum doula care, she’s able to holistically guide expecting parents towards educated and empowering decisions for their prenatal, birth and postpartum experiences. Both Kelsey and Tina share an ever-growing love and passion for all things birth and postpartum. Our focus will always remain ensuring our clients feel supported, informed, and empowered as they navigate childbirth and the journey of growing their families. We consistently challenge each other to widen our knowledge base through continual research and training in birth work. To learn more about us, please see our bios here.


Even more growth is imminent, both in the realms of services offered and the expansion of our team. We are so thankful and grateful to all of you along on this journey with us! We look forward to supporting more families as they grow, and could not be more honored to walk alongside you during this special time in your lives.

To those of you who have offered us your unwavering support and encouragement, thank you from the bottom of our hearts. You are simply the wind in our sails!

Much doula love,

Kelsey & Tina

Mind Over Matter

We have all been programmed to believe labor and birth is this horrific event. We see it in movies -  mom’s water breaks at the most inconvenient of times, she’s doubled over in pain instantaneously, goes to the hospital immediately, dad is clueless, and everyone is a frantic mess. Then we hear all the horror stories from our own mothers to the grocery store clerk who just happens to notice your protruding belly and feels the need to terrify you with her own awful experience(s), including the most intimate of details to boot.

Yes, labor and birth can take crazy, unexpected turns and although we strive for our birth preferences to be seen through, it sometimes just doesn’t play out that way – whether there is a medical issue or mom has a change of heart in the moment. However, the majority of women can and should have a labor and birth experience far from what the media portrays to be the norm.

Here are a few tips to get your desired birth experience:

1.       Choose the right birth place. Some women feel best in a hospital/birth center and others feel most comfortable at home. Whatever place speaks to you, make it happen!

2.       Choose the right birth team. This includes your care provider (obstetrician or midwife), your doula, and your family and friends. Include those who you feel comfortable being your most vulnerable with and those who you know have your best interest at heart.

3.       Be proactive and prepare yourself. Get educated on birth – take classes, read books and articles, watch documentaries and videos. Prepare your body with regular physical exercise for stamina mixed with additional pregnancy exercises for birth and postpartum. Practice relaxation techniques regularly.

4.       Create a birth plan. There are so many aspects of labor, birth, postpartum and newborn care that one must think about and decide on. Know what your options are and make decisions based on the science/evidence as well as your gut instinct and desires. As your doula, we will guide you through your options and help you prepare a birth plan bias and judgment free!

5.       Don’t allow horror stories and the media’s exaggerations to worry or persuade you. Trust in yourself, your baby and the process that is childbirth. Women have been doing this since the start of time.

The truth is, labor almost never starts with the bags of water breaking (<10%), the contractions and pain that accompanies them is gradual and manageable in early labor, you don’t leave for the hospital until you are in the active stage of labor (likely hours after labor begins), and the birth team has the ability, and furthermore, the responsibility to remain calm, present and supportive of the mom through her entire labor and birth experience. Another truth is that every single birth is different because every baby is different and every woman’s body is different. So the next time you see Katherine Heigl screaming at the top of her lungs for an epidural in the movie “Knocked Up” or notice a grocery store clerk gearing up to share your worst nightmare in a nutshell - take a deep, diaphragmatic breath. This is not YOUR story. Mind over matter.

5 Tips for Beating the Wintertime Blues

By Amy Mason
Please learn more about Amy by visiting her website at www.amyemason.com.

Hi Mamas! Today we want to give you a mid-winter boost with some tips on improving your mood and beating the wintertime blues. As moms, it feels more natural to us to care for our families and our needs sometimes come last. However, in the middle of a cold and dark February in Chicago, I often found myself feeling worn out, empty, and frankly a little down in the dumps. Here are some tips for feeling your best even in the dead of winter.

1. Get enough sleep! Easier said than done right? Sleep is when our bodies heal. A new study recently revealed that our brains actually wash themselves at night clearing away toxins. You can see the study here .  Sleep is essential for brain restoration. Our brains are the operation center for everything in our bodies - including our emotions. It makes sense that we give ourselves optimum time so our brains can regenerate, rest, and heal.  So how do we do that? Here are a few tips: Set a regular bedtime and stick to it. Implement a calming bedtime routine to prime your body for sleep. Turn off electronics at least 1-2 hours before bedtime. Last but not least, make sure your room is as dark as possible. Getting more sleep can literally refresh the brain, thereby refreshing you!

2. Get 30 minutes of sunshine a day! Getting 30 minutes of direct sunlight is important for maintaining healthy hormone levels and circadian rhythms. If it’s not sunny, that’s okay, even being outside for a short walk is enough. In Chicago and other places where winter days are often cloudy, a sun lamp is another great option.

3. Stay connected. It’s tempting when the weather is cold to stay indoors where it’s warm and cozy. Make sure you make time to really connect with people who fill you up. Whether it’s your spouse, or a dear friend, relationships can help give us a sense of love and belonging. Touch is important too! Hug your kids! Hug your friends! Hug another Mama who needs it. This is another important way of staying connected.

4. Move your body. Even a few minutes of exercise can provide a major boost in your mood. Whether you can get outside for a walk or spend a few minutes doing yoga, moving your body is so important for our health and our moods. It doesn’t have to be as hard-core as a spin class. In fact, there is some evidence that moderate exercise is most helpful for hormone regulation. If you work, try switching to a standing desk or getting up and moving around every 20-30 minutes. Here is a fascinating article on both sleep and exercise.

5. Try a new scent! This last tip is the most fun. Smells have a powerful impact on our brains. Trying an essential oil, especially in the citrus family, can help boost your mood. Grapefruit, lemon, tangerine, and orange are all bright and sweet smells. Dilute if necessary and dab a little on your wrists or behind your ears. Put a few drops on a cotton ball and put it in your car. You can also diffuse it to make your house smell like summer. You can find great oils here and here .

Spending a little time to help you feel your best is one of the greatest investments of time you can make! It will help you have the energy to be a present and loving Mom to your precious kids.

Remember, Motherhood is a sisterhood. Let's get through these long winter months together!

Finding the Light After Postpartum Depression

We are honored to feature a Guest Post this month, honestly and beautifully written by Lisa Jensen of Woodstock, IL. Lisa is a loving mother of three children, a wife, a friend, a daughter, a sister. She is also a sufferer of Postpartum Depression, and has gracefully opened up about her struggles and healing.

Lisa and her son Bennet

Lisa and her son Bennet

“The darkness is complete." I wrote that seven times in my journal just a few months after my third child was born. Depression and I have had a relationship for over a decade so we are not strangers but until that day, on which I wrote those words, I had never known the sadness to be so powerful, so suffocating, so hopeless. 
My baby boy came into the world in one of the most stressful fashions, an emergency c-section. He was breech and his heart rate had spiked to a dangerous level. After a few hours at the hospital for observation and testing it was determined that he needed to be born as soon as possible. On a Tuesday, I had gone to the hospital for routine testing and didn't leave until Saturday. In that time, I had a beautiful baby boy taken from my body and I endured pain and fear like I had never known. I left him at the hospital for three more days and then I was able to bring him home to complete our family of five. 

Just like with his older brother and sister, my heart exploded when I saw him for the first time. He was sick and needed intensive care but he was mine and I knew him and he knew me and we were connected long before I held him in my arms. I never imagined needing a c-section. I had two vaginal births and was ready to prove that I could push my third baby out in record time. I looked forward to the birth. The labor and delivery and even the pain that precedes the most unbelievable joy. When I was told I needed a c-section, I wanted to stop time. I wanted to help my baby move out of his breech position. I realized it was not about what I wanted and absolutely about what he needed. One day, while feeding him in the NICU, I was visited by a Psychologist who informed me that women who experience c-sections, especially emergency c-sections, are more prone to Postpartum Depression than woman who deliver their babies vaginally. I was intrigued by this and grateful for her time and words that served as a warning for me.

When my little guy was two months old, and I started to feel better physically after the c-section, I started to endure a different pain; a pain in my heart, my mind and my soul. A darkness I later realized was indeed Postpartum Depression. Day by day, the darkness seemed to grow taller, consuming my body and mind until there was no light to guide me to places of love or joy. I could not remember the names of my dearest friends. I could not move through my house without feeling like everything was out of place and my whole body ached. I remember sitting at my desk in my room, crying so hard and so loudly that my husband checked on me a dozen times and begged me to respond to his questions. "What can I do?" "Do you plan on hurting yourself?" "Do I need to call someone?" I continuously just shook my head "No." I had hoped that I would fall asleep and the darkness would just carry me away somewhere. I knew I did not want to die but I wanted to disappear. After crying and journaling for a while I finally did fall asleep and I woke up in the morning knowing I needed help.

I called my doctor and got in to see her right away. After a few weeks of treatment and counseling I started to feel the light again. I started to see it in my sweet little girl's eyes and in her older brother's smile. I could look at my brand new baby and see how miraculous his life was and how precious his little fingers looked wrapped around one of mine. I started to come back from a place of pain and into a world of possibility.

Postpartum Depression almost consumed me. It told me that I was not good enough or strong enough to handle motherhood. It tried to rob me of the joy and magic that was my new baby. Postpartum Depression told me that I was alone and no one else in the world could understand my sadness. People who loved me asked, “But why can’t you be happy?” They followed that question with “You just had a baby and that should give you enough reason to be happy.” This Depression was not about choice or an inability to love, it was about me. Me needing time to adjust as a person with a soul and dreams and to adjust to being a mother of three. My body and mind needed to adjust to the reality of a small, precious being whom I carried from the time his life began, vacating my body and leaving me with my heart much bigger and much more vulnerable. Postpartum Depression is one of my most memorable teachers. I will never forget the pain and I will never forget the darkness and I am grateful every day that I did not let it win.

Baby Bennet

Baby Bennet

Written by Lisa Jensen

 

 

Loss During the Holidays

By Amy Mason
Please learn more about Amy by visiting her website at www.amyemason.com.

For most, the holidays are times for pure celebration and rejoicing. In the midst of the busy holiday bustle we want to stop for a moment and address, recognize and respect one of the saddest realities that some of us face in our pursuit of motherhood: losing a baby. It may seem a little strange to be talking about this topic during the holidays but for some women, this Christmas will mean coping with the grief of a miscarriage or the loss of a child. At Cloud Nine, we truly believe that motherhood is a sisterhood and sometimes we need to come around our sisters who are heartbroken. While we all wish it were never so, pain and loss can be a part of being a mom. If you’re experiencing this kind of loss this season, we want to extend warmth and love to you this Christmas.

It was six years ago, a week before Christmas, when I lost a baby. I was blessed to be a Mama already to a beautiful boy, but my husband and I longed to grow our family. We tried and tried. For almost a year I was disappointed month after month to find out I was not pregnant. Then November came and I started to feel weird. I just had a period, I thought, but I felt pregnant!? I was shocked when the test came out positive! However, at my doctor’s appointment, things didn’t look right. For a few weeks we did blood work and the numbers weren’t climbing fast enough. Finally I was referred to a specialist. I should’ve been about 8 or 9 weeks pregnant by this point. The ultrasound showed no sac but instead a huge cyst on one of my ovaries and it was diagnosed as an ectopic pregnancy. I went from the expectation of a new baby to the uncertainty of a precarious pregnancy and the almost certain loss of this baby. My doctor called me that night to talk about the seriousness of this situation and that I needed to go to the hospital the very next morning to terminate the pregnancy. All the time I felt the panic rising up in my chest and my dreams of a baby disappearing into the darkness.

I wanted this little baby so badly. I didn’t know how I could force myself to go through with terminating the pregnancy, even though I knew the outcome would be critical for both of us. The next morning was December 18th, exactly one week before Christmas. It was a beautiful, crisp clear and sparkling morning. But inside my heart was heavy, dull and dark.  My husband and I drove to the hospital and tears streamed down my face the whole time. I didn’t know if I could go through with the procedure. My body was in motion one way but my heart was pulling another. I knew the severity of the situation. This was a morning where I had to walk by faith and not by sight. I couldn’t see the path ahead, not with my eyes blurred with tears or my heart blurred with pain.

Right away, my blood was drawn by a technician and my numbers checked again. Then I was brought into the exam room. I tried to pull myself together as I waited for the nurse. I’m convinced now, she was an angel. She walked into the room and took one look at me and threw hear arms around me in a warm understanding embrace. Her presence was like sitting next to a warm cozy fire. Her name was Dawn and I’ll never forget what she said to me. She told me my numbers were already dropping, my body already beginning the process of miscarriage. She also told me she could never ever do this job if she thought for a moment there was a chance this was a viable pregnancy. Then she said this, “This time next year, you’ll be back here with a little baby.” I dared not even hope.

I had the chemotherapy shots. I cried and grieved. The week leading up to Christmas was slow and difficult. And then, Christmas Eve morning I woke up puffy-eyed and stumbled to the kitchen to find it was snowing. The ground was already covered and huge white puffy flakes were falling from the sky. Everything was washed clean in that beautiful white snow. My heart was still in deep pain but that Christmas ended being so magical. The darkness of my grief in contrast with the beauty of fresh snow and bright white lights - it was the season where my grief turned to hope of fresh life.

One year later, I sat in my living room looking at the lights and watching snow fall fresh again but this time with my newborn son cradled in my arms. Out of the emptiness of my womb came the possibility for new life. The grief in my heart for the child I lost grew in me a capacity and enjoyment of the preciousness of the gift of another son. I thought about Dawn. I smiled as I remembered her words.

For some of you, you may be grieving in this season where everyone else is celebrating. I know what that’s like. You may be wishing for the gift of life and finding emptiness instead. Mama, I know. It is so hard to give when you feel empty, to receive when you feel broken, to celebrate when you feel loss. The hope of Christmas is that into the emptiness, came a baby.  Into the darkness, came life and warmth. Into the brokenness came hope of healing and new life, new love, new joy. I hope for those of you experiencing loss in this season that the firelight is a little warmer for you, the twinkle lights a little merrier, the gifts a little sweeter, and that hope falls fresh on you like soft snow.

Simple Ways to Teach Your Kids to be Grateful

By Amy Mason
Please learn more about Amy by visiting her website at www.amyemason.com.

Hi Mamas!

As Thanksgiving approaches, we wanted to share with you a few simple ways to grow grateful kids. Isn’t it refreshing when someone says “thank you”? I often find myself surprised and thrilled to get a thank you note in the mail. It’s such a wonderful thing to be able to give and receive thanks. There is a wealth of information about why gratitude is important. For a great read on why teaching gratitude to children makes a positive impact, take a look at this article by Ann Voskamp by clicking here.

I know for me, I cringe when my kids act entitled. We’re working on that. I really hope to raise children who are grateful and who express appreciation for what they have. I want them to feel content and full so they can celebrate the possessions and successes of others without feeling lacking and less-than. I hope to help train their brains to look for the good in this world. I’m sharing with you some of what I’m learning and what we’re practicing in our home. Here are some ways that we try to make gratitude part of our family culture.

We try to model gratitude. Sorry Mamas. But monkey see, monkey do. Our kids watch us. I am constantly stopping to assess my own attitude. Do I try to find things to be thankful for or am I looking more at what I lack? It’s so easy to focus more on our problems than our possibilities. We mamas have the power to set the tone in our family. I’m learning that when we need a family change, it often starts with me.

We talk about what we’re thankful for. We ask our kids often what they are thankful for. The dinner table is a great place to talk about gratitude. Ask what was beautiful about today or what made them feel special or what made them laugh. Share your thoughts too. This was awkward at first for us. Once our kids knew we would be asking them to share what they’re grateful for, it will encouraged them to be on the lookout for good things throughout their day.

We say “thank you” a lot. Do you find yourself complaining about what didn’t go right today? Sometimes I catch myself getting negative. When this happens, I try to shift the conversation to focus on the good things that happened to me. There are lots of other ways to verbally express your gratitude. Tell your husband “thank you” for helping. Look your kids in the eye and thank them when they do something kind or thoughtful. Be intentional to thank the people who check you out at the store. These are small actions that have a big impact.

Write a thank you note. A little note is a tangible way to express gratitude. It’s not about a perfect or elegant thank you card, although it can be. You can write words of gratitude in an email to a co-worker thanking them for their contribution on that project. Send a text to your mom to thank her for helping you with the kids. Put a sticky note in your kids lunches telling them you’re so glad thankful they cleaned up their room without you asking. If your kids are old enough, you can encourage them to write thank you notes for gifts they receive. It may seem annoying, but it’s a great way for them to pause and focus on the people and gifts in their lives.

Teach gratitude intentionally. There are so many opportunities to express gratitude if you know where to find them. Think about where your kids can learn to say “thank you.” Maybe you can encourage them to look at their teacher and say “thank you” at the end of the school day. Maybe you can teach them to tell their friend “thanks for having me over today.” And don’t forget, they can say “thanks” to you for that great meal or for help on their homework!

You don’t have to feel like you have to do it all at once! I certainly don’t practice all of these every day! I’ve found it helpful to pick one or two areas that are meaningful to our family and focus on growing gratitude there. Practicing gratitude gets easier over time. Good luck raising those grateful kids! We’re working on it here too and we’re cheering you on!

Mamas, we are so thankful for you. Like we always say, motherhood is a sisterhood and we are so thankful for the support and friendship we have here at Cloud Nine.

Wishing you and your family a very Happy Thanksgiving!

XO,

How to Safely Trick or Treat When Your Child Has Food Allergies

By Amy Mason
Please learn more about Amy by visiting her website at www.amyemason.com.

Hello Mamas!

Halloween is right around the corner! I bet you are starting to plan parties and getting your children’s costumes ready (or purchased, if you’re like me)! Halloween is such a fun and exciting day for our kids! Let’s face it, what’s not amazing about getting free candy? However, the candy, for many families who struggle with food allergies, can be a source of anxiety. There are many families who struggle with trick-or-treating because their children have allergies to wheat, dairy, nuts, eggs, and soy - all foods prevalent in Halloween candy.

In our family, both of my children have allergies and sensitivities to certain foods. When we realized this, we adopted a very strict diet to avoid them eating foods that could make them sick or that could cause a reaction. As our first Halloween approached post diet, I worried about them getting candy or foods that would cause them to react and I wondered if we should skip trick-or-treating altogether. I felt conflicted because I loved this tradition as a child and wanted to enjoy it with my own children. I also worried about them missing out on conversations and fun times with their peers.

Over the years we’ve learned a few tricks to help our children with food allergies have a fun and safe Halloween. I’ll share with you some of our favorite resources and strategies for enjoying Halloween with our kiddos. If your children don’t have food allergies - this post is for you too! One in 13 children have food allergies! Your awareness can help these children stay safe and be able to participate in the fun of trick-or-treating as well!

Since our boys love trick-or-treating with their friends and, we couldn’t avoid them collecting candy, we decided to use the candy to help them earn something more exciting. We turn it into a game so they could be equally as excited about getting candy as their friends were. Each piece of candy becomes worth 5 cents, 10 cents, or 25 cents, depending on the size. At the end of the evening, my kids love dumping out their Halloween candy and counting up how much money they’ve earned. Most years they’ve never exceeded $10-1$15 worth of candy. Then they exchange the loot for money. In past years we would take them to the store the day after Halloween so they could purchase a toy with the money they earned from trick-or-treating. Last year, we estimated how much they’d earn, and had already purchased the toys (without the boys knowing) so they could exchange their candy immediately for the toy they just earned. This has worked so well for my kids. In our case, there really isn’t any candy that would be safe for them, and I’m not overly worried they will sneak some because, in this game, every piece counts!

Another great resource is called the Teal Pumpkin Project. It was started by Food Allergy Research and Education and has become a movement to include children with food allergies in Halloween festivities by handing out non-food items, such as small toys and games. You can place a teal pumpkin by your door as a sign that you are including kids with food allergies and have an alternative to candy to offer. My kids get so excited when they see a non-food item in their candy bag. To participate or for more information click here. You can also check their map here to see where there are participating neighborhoods in your area.

I’ve talked to other families who have decided to host their own party and have children trick-or-treat in different rooms of the house for allergy-free foods or even non-food items. By having the party in their own home, the parents were able to provide a safe environment for their children and friends and ensure the foods and snack items wouldn’t be harmful to their kids.

Alternatively, if your children are attending a Halloween party, offer to provide safe snacks and make sure the host is aware of your child’s allergies. I have found that many people are very happy to be accommodating to friends with food allergies. This may seem like an awkward exchange, but you are your child’s greatest advocate and it’s okay to speak up when there is a real health issue at stake.

Whether this is new for you or you’re old pros, remember to talk with your children about your expectations for that day -- what is safe for them and what is not. Help them think through how to respond if people offer them candy at school or at a party. The better prepared they are ahead of time, the more likely they will make wise and safe choices.

Do your kids have food allergies or sensitivities? What strategies do you have for keeping Halloween safe and fun?

Make It Sweet! Alternatives to Refined Sugar

By Amy Mason
Please learn more about Amy by visiting her website at www.amyemason.com.

There is nothing better on a fall day than a warm piece of zucchini bread and a pumpkin spice latte! As the weather turns colder in most places it’s the time where most of us long for some baked goods and look forward to the treats of the coming holidays. Your littles probably appreciate these yummy snacks as well!

Most of us have heard that refined white sugar and high fructose corn syrup aren’t good for us or our kiddos. White sugar and high fructose corn syrup are culprits that cripple the body’s immune system, impair the body’s ability to regulate appetite, contribute to weight gain, and over time decrease the body’s ability to produce insulin which eventually leads to cardiovascular diseases or type 2 diabetes. (Find more information here).

The good news is that there are many great alternative sweeteners that not only add incredible flavor, but also contain some nutrition. Keep in mind that the more refined something is - like bleached white flour or refined white sugar - the more empty calories and the less nutrition there will be. (Disclaimer: these alternatives to processed sugar are still forms of sugar and will still cause a spike (although smaller) in blood sugar and should be used sparingly. Also, although these alternatives do have more nutritional value, there is no substitute for a nutritious diet that includes lots of healthy greens and a variety of vegetables). With that said, here are some delicious and nutritious options for your fall baking needs!

Coconut Sugar: This is my favorite swap for recipes that call for sugar. It is an easy and accessible substitute. Coconut sugar comes from the sap of cut flowers of the coconut palm. It has a lower glycemic index (meaning it won’t cause as great a spike in blood sugar) as refined white sugar. It is more coarse than white sugar and smells more like brown sugar but can be used in place of either white or brown sugar in baking recipes. Trader Joes now sells their own brand but you can also find it at most health food stores as either Coconut Crystals or Palm Sugar (a variant made from a different kind of palm tree). You can take a look at the link to Trader Joes here.

Maple Sugar: Maple sugar is another alternative that has a very low glycemic index. It has a mild maple flavor but is absolutely delicious in baking recipes. It is lighter in color than coconut sugar and has a finer texture. It’s another easy and delicious substitute for white or brown sugar. Find my favorite brand here. The downside is that it's a little bit pricier than coconut sugar.

Maple Syrup: It’s not just for pancakes! “Not only does maple syrup taste fantastic, but it’s an awesome source of micronutrients! When you buy grade B maple syrup, you get a lot of minerals, including manganese and zinc. Other trace minerals include calcium, potassium, and iron. Another amazing thing about maple syrup, especially grade B, is that it contains up to 24 antioxidants!!” (Source: Dr. Sarah Ballantyne, and here.) 

Honey: Honey is a fantastic sweetener - a little bit goes a long way! It’s mild taste makes it a wonderful alternative to white sugar. Tip: You may have to make adjustments to the ratio of wet to dry ingredients to get your recipe just perfect. If you’re embarking on a baking project that requires yeast, you can swap honey for sugar to proof the yeast.

Molasses: Blackstrap Molasses is probably the most nutritious choice when it comes to sweeteners. It is actually a by-product of the sugar-making process but it is packed full of vitamins and micronutrients. It has more nutrients per calorie than other sweeteners. It has a rich, but strong scent and flavor. You can peruse this article from ThePaleoMom.com about the benefits of Molasses if you’re interested.

Fruit: Fruits get their sweetness from the natural sugar fructose. Many products today are sweetened with fruit juices. However, you can also use whole fruits in baking such as bananas, dates, pears, pineapples, and apples that will add sweetness. The benefit of using whole fruits is that the sugars stay attached to the fibers of the fruit, slowing down the digestion of the sugars so there isn’t as great a spike in blood sugar. Try soaking dates in hot water for 20 minutes, draining, and blending into a sweet paste with a food processor. Use in place of a liquid sweetener. You can also purchase date sugar but I have not found that to be as sweet or tasty as using whole dates (pits removed of course)!

When we think of feeding our kids, let’s look for ways to include foods that are packed with nutrition rather than merely avoiding bad stuff. When we do this we find that even some sugars can have nutritional value in small amounts. I hope this opens up a whole new world of possibilities for your fall menus! Hopefully you’ll be able to give you kiddos some treats (in moderation!) you can feel good about.

Here’s to healthy moms and healthy kids!

To the Nursing Mom at 2:00 AM

By Amy Mason
Please learn more about Amy by visiting her website at www.amyemason.com.

Hey sweet Mama. Here you are, up again in the middle of the night, half-asleep, holding your precious child and nursing. You are probably hoping and praying that this feeding will give you at least a 4 hour stretch of sleep (or longer)! You look enviously at your husband sound asleep and wish you could conveniently sleep through shrieking baby cries like he can.

This is written to the mothers out there who are exhausted, whose night time feedings leave them wondering why it doesn’t come naturally or why it is so much harder than they expected. Getting up at night is stressful and hectic. Once you finally lay your head back down the tears are flowing down your cheeks because you know you’ll be up at it again in about 45 minutes. This was my experience with breastfeeding. The best advice someone gave to me was this: This is a season.

This season can at times make you wonder if you’ve lost your sense of identity. Maybe you’re so tired you can hardly function and you think baby-brain has reduced your once sharp mind to mush. Maybe you look in the mirror at the dark circles under your eyes and the way your body has changed and wonder if you’ll ever get back to normal.

This season is bittersweet and it’s okay to feel that it’s hard sometimes. Motherhood will challenge you for sure. Right now it’s mostly the physical challenge of surviving erratic (if any) sleep and nursing when you’re SURE there is not one more drop of milk left in your body! This season is the aching arms and stiff neck from holding your baby who by some force of their 8 pound body absolutely will not let you put them down. It’s going to bed at 7:30 PM because you sleep when the baby sleeps. It’s lazy mornings in bed adoring your baby’s angelic face even though at 2:00 AM you were sure he was a spawn of the devil and not your child. This season is a blur of days and nights and feeding, sleeping, changing diapers, and doing it all over again. But it’s a season where your baby loves you unconditionally and needs you fully. It’s a season of wonder over how all 10 toes came out so perfect and tiny. It’s scrumptious baby smell and how soft their skin is next to your cheek. It’s chubby little thighs and whole conversations of sweet cooing. This is a precious season.

Suddenly, just as quickly as you became a mother to this baby, you will become a mother to a toddler. Toddlerhood has its beauty in the curiosity and questions and messes. It is the next season full of wonder and challenges of its own.  

Will your life ever get back to normal? Well, no. You will never go back to who you were before you became a mom. But you will be a better person than you who you were before. You will know the beauty of sacrifice and the distance you would go for love of your baby. You will be ever loved by this little person who one day will thrill your heart when he finally says, “Mama” for the first time. You will be stronger than you thought as you walk your child through their own struggles. And physically? Those stretch marks and loose skin aren’t scars to abhor - they are beauty marks to adore. They are witness to your participation in the miracle of bringing new life into this world. Your new title “Mom” ushers you into so many possibilities for sisterhood as you meet and share friendship with other lovely ladies who hold your same title! It’s the season that gives birth to all the blessings that come in every season of motherhood.

If you are waiting for this season to be over so you can get a good night of sleep for the love, you will get there soon enough. I promise your child will probably be sleeping through the night before they go to college. The challenge in this season is to be present with your baby despite the difficulty. For now try to soak it all in. Engage all your senses fully in this moment so that when this season does pass you can be at peace knowing you savored it as best you could.

So, for now it is quiet in your room. It’s just you and baby snuggling close. Your little one is safe and you are nourishing them as best you can. These quiet moments with just the two of you go by so fast. Soak them up, smell their soft hair and marvel at their little toes. As they grow so do their problems. For now, you can handle a night time feeding because you know a new season is just around the corner.

Remember, you are a wonderful Mom. You’re never alone. You are surrounded by sisters who are up holding vigil on the night shift with you!

Say Goodbye to Mommy Guilt

By Amy Mason
Please learn more about Amy by visiting her website at www.amyemason.com.

Hey Mama. Let’s talk about a bad friend that’s been hanging around for way too long. Her name is Mommy Guilt. You know her by her accusing tone and condescending voice that whispers things like you’re not good enough, you’re not doing enough, you’ll never be as good as a mom as so-and-so. She’s the friend who likes to park your thoughts on your failures and stay there for way too long. Do you know her? I do too.

It’s no wonder so many of us put up with Mommy Guilt every day. We live in a world where only the best of mothering is put on display. Pinterest shows us the most creative and most fashionable moms in the world. Facebook and Instagram bombard us with pictures of beautiful families with well behaved children enjoying perfect moments of marital and sibling bliss. How can we see these incredible pictures and not feel “less than”? Oh how Mommy Guilt loves to feed on that feeling.

Here’s the thing - it’s time to break up with Mommy Guilt. It’s an important step toward being content as a mom. I certainly don’t want to mother from the place of fear she brings me to. Deep down, I desire the confidence to fully embrace the family I have and be the woman I want to be. I truly want to enjoy this beautiful gift of being a mom.

Over the years, I’ve realized that Mommy Guilt has no value in my life and I’ve been learning there are ways to put her off. Here are three ways to help you say goodbye to Mommy Guilt.

Embrace good enough. There is a whole theory of parenting called Good Enough parenting that says that it is actually better to raise children as a good enough parent, rather than a perfect parent. The best parents are involved enough but are flawed enough too. Supermom is a myth and nothing feeds Mommy Guilt like trying to make yourself and your children live up to an impossible standard. One of the best things you can do for yourself and your children is to learn to embrace your humanity and see your limitations as part of the package of good parenting traits you already have. Your limits can be opportunities to teach your children about how to deal with failure and mistakes. Plus, eventually your children will become aware that you are not perfect; that they are not perfect. They might as well know that sooner than later and learn to how to embrace their strengths and weaknesses. This helps children cope with disappointment and learn to roll with the punches. Isn’t it a relief to know that your “good enough” is actually better than perfect?

Focus on the Good. Mommy Guilt loves getting your train of thought stuck on your failures. One way to escape feelings of guilt is to spend some time each day listing or journaling what you did well that day. Even if it’s as simple as gave my kids a hug, or kept my children alive - celebrate it! It can also include took care of me, or showed affection for my husband. Try to think of any positive example set, gift given, words said, healthy snacks consumed. Set aside time each day to only think about what you’re doing well as a mother. This is not a time to think about what you should be doing or what you want to be doing better. This is a time to remember what you have done and are doing well. You will be amazed at how this list grows over time and each day you will become more aware of your strengths as a mother rather than your failures.

Share the love. A great way to fight Mommy Guilt is to turn the attention to someone else. Motherhood is a sisterhood and we all need each other in order to do this thing well and to raise our beautiful children into functioning, caring adults! Who are the moms in your life that you admire? Who are the women that inspire you? Take some time to let them know. Text them some words of encouragement. Write them a note. Send them a gift. Your encouragement might be a healing balm to their soul - and maybe even the boost they need to break up with their own Mommy Guilt.

Friends, let’s make a pact to leave Mommy Guilt in the past. Let’s be okay with being real moms, let’s focus on where we are succeeding rather than failing, and let’s give each other a little TLC so we can be great moms who raise the next generation of caring kids!

Moms on a Mission

By Amy Mason
Please learn more about Amy by visiting her website at www.amyemason.com.

Welcome to the Cloud Nine Baby Planning blog! We are so glad you stopped by! There is a lot in store for you but first we want to share our vision with you.

We are Moms on a Mission! We believe that Motherhood is a Sisterhood and that as women, we need each other on this journey of mothering. If you are a mom or mom-to-be, you need to know we are on your side! Our mission is to provide a place where you can find both support and practical advice to help you thrive as a mom. Our desire is to come alongside you and be your cheerleaders, and your fellow travelers in this great adventure of Motherhood.

Becoming a mother is one of life’s most beautiful experiences but it can also be overwhelming. Although most moms will say they don’t believe in a Supermom, many of us find ourselves still striving to be her. Here at Cloud Nine, we are real moms with real kids. Both Tina and I have all boys so you can bet we have our share of crazy! We don’t claim to be perfect and perfection is not our goal. Our goal is to love motherhood, and to help others love motherhood too. We aim to embrace our beautiful children and our important role in their lives, to laugh at the mess, and give each other permission to drink wine at 3 pm if necessary. You can learn more about Tina and Amy here.

Amy and Tina, circa 1999

Amy and Tina, circa 1999

Tina and I been the dearest of friends for over 20 years! We are excited to bring this blog to you from a place of friendship, and invite you stay connected here for lots of laughs, amazing stories, and practical tips to help you thrive. Stay tuned for lots of practical posts from Tina including baby care tips, postpartum care for mom and baby, and her favorite baby gear picks. We also want address other areas of motherhood such as mommy guilt, what real moms look like, nutrition, and special need parenting.

We are so honored you stopped by!

In it together,